Dear Single Mothers

Dear Mothers,

Welcome.

I know that sometimes life is just straight up hard! Life comes at you quick and hard without giving you the time to sort things out. But the last thing I want to see us single mothers do is give up on ourselves. We owe it to ourselves to be happy and fulfilled and complete. Regardless of the mistakes we’ve made we owe life to ourselves. We owe this to our children. That career you want is not going to earn itself. That home you want built is not going to build itself. That business you want to start is not going to build itself. And yes, I know what history has tried to blame us. I know what society sometimes thinks of us. I know what our religions teach us. Single moms are bad. They do not want to be anything in life. They do not want to make any more than minimum wage. They don’t want to work for anything. They keep the kids hostage from the fathers because the fathers don’t pay child support( so over this excuse). They raise delinquent children who don’t or won’t perform well in school. They are responsible for high crime rates. They do not aspire to be the best that they can be. These things are going to be said regardless. WHAT WE WILL NOT DO IS LET THIS TYPE OF THINKING DICTATE OUR LIVES, CHOICES AND THE SUCCESS WE ARE COLLECTIVELY AND INDIVIDUALLY CAPABLE OF.

There are going to be a lot of people, family and friends, who are going to try to degrade you and make you feel less than. THIS IS THEIR PROBLEM. NOT YOURS. You don’t own any of what people think of you. Stop breaking your mental bank trying to buy into what makes others feel comfortable. I always say there is a story behind every pregnancy and single mother and single father: Divorce, Widowed, Sexual Assault, Adoption, Love, and or Unplanned/Wedlock. Which ever one of these is your story, its your story. Now guess what? You have to finish the story or rewrite the story. Its not the end. Not even close. We got work to do.

I love each and everyone of you and remember when no one is rooting for you, I’m rooting for you. LETS DO THIS.