This year, like many of my single moms, Im celebrating Valentines’ Day without a partner. No alone, just without a partner. Six years ago I was getting out of a terrible relationship that left me feeling unloved, under valued and betrayed. 2015 I decided to celebrate the love I had for my daughters who were 10, 7 and 1 at the time. I decided to cook them a steak dinner complete with shrimp kabobs, ginger ale in cute little wine glasses. I topped it off with ballooned gifts and the girls loved it.
This quickly became a tradition of mine. Did I mention it was also for my mom and sister? Yep just us girls and it was just what we needed. Since then the dinners have gotten a little more extravagant with jewelry as gifts and money filled envelops and red roses for my mom and sister, but it’s not about the gifts. The dinner…now a tradition, became a what each of us needed…to feel special, loved, celebrated by ourselves first. Today this moment we take to shower my daughters and mom is more than just a dinner. It’s a moment. A necessary moment for women, mothers and daughters and sisters to celebrate each other. Because of this traditional moment we created I learned to love me and my singleness.
I want my single moms to not get so caught up in the idea of having a man on Valentine’s Day, but to take this day and create a tradition. Funny thing is I was in a relationship right up until the end of 2020 and to end it was one of the best decisions I’ve made to start this year off happy and completely content with myself. I’m the shit and anyone who has had an experience with me knows this. His loss. I want single moms to understand the power that comes from being single and not settling.