If you’re here then 9 times out of 10 you’re single or maybe just checking your options. Everything we post here is from personal experience. We can’t give you the good of it if we’ve never been through it. This post is no different. I have been single now for 5 years, the longest I’ve ever been single since I was 15. Now some are going to be like, “wow” and some will understand. One of the main things I always say about being single is that if you are, you are because you choose to be, not because you have to be. We all have choices and right now this is the best choice for you.
Many of us have relationship goals, whether it be what we’ve seen from our parents or grandparents to our friends or mentors or maybe even a movie. I love a good love story, but I too want my own to share and I too have relationship goals. Another thing I’ve come to realize is that we make mistakes in relationships simple because we don’t ask questions, communicate our feelings or take him for who he’s shown us he can be. We all have our juvenile story to tell and today you probably wouldn’t look at someone who demonstrates those qualities you once found attractive.
Today we are setting relationship goals. We are not adhering to societal standards nor are settling for any type of foolishness from anyone who doesn’t exhibit the qualities we desire in a husband. So here we go
- Ask questions. Too many of us are afraid to offend or push him away. If he is the person you are supposed to be with then he’ll be happy to answer your questions.
- Answer his questions. If you have questions he’ll have questions. Guys also want to make sure that the woman they want to spend their lives with wants the same things they do.
- Be honest.
- Be open.
- Trust what he’s showing you while listening to what he’s telling you, if they don’t match…
- Pay attention to the way he treats the women in his life; mom, daughters, sister, grandmother
- Get to know his character. He can be cute, but what does his heart and mind look like
- Don’t neglect your gut feelings.
- Be mindful of his upbringing, not all of us grow up the same
- Living together, paying bills together, sex and any other thing you do with someone that has not made a commitment to you and your child, issa no. Stop doing it.
- If you find it disrespectful, say so and leave it alone
- Decide what a real loving honest relationship looks like for you, not what others have defined
There’s a part 2 coming so I’ll end this part here. Leave a comment and let us know what you think.