Stand Up Girl: He Left. Now What?

Stand up sis, pick your head up. He left, now what? Once upon a time I could sit and talk about the men I have children with all day; what they did or didn’t do. I’m sure you and your girls can too. The biggest take away is that he is no longer here. Are we going to allow that to stop us or determine the direction of our future? Are we going to blame his leaving on the fact that the kids having trouble in school or are we going to stand up and take control? I can tell you what I did in hopes that you gain something from it.

Leaving or being left is not easy. There’s a lot to consider on top of the fact that you both have a child to take care of. Playing the blame game or reliving the relationship does not help. Figuring out how you’re going to move past it does. What parts of your life do you need to now focus on? What needs to be watered? Where do you need to grow? After my relationship ended I had to go back and sort of relearn myself. What did I want from life, who did I no longer need in it? I also had to consider the type of mother I wanted to be. Did I want to be bitter or defeated? No. I wanted to understand the breakup and grow from it. I wanted to reconnect with my daughters and be more accessible to them.

So he left. It’s a man and you’ll get a shiny new one. It’s time to stop dwelling on being alone and falling in love with you again. Let’s make sure we have something to bring to the table when we’re ready for another.